A bit on the side

Theoretically the wife doesn't know I am back in his life.

He went from happy and not interested in sex to miserable and willing to give sex a go, doing little and smoking lots of dope.

He now goes out rather often, is very cheerful, has cut back on the dope, but gets moody and/or poorly if he doesn't get time 'to himself'.

And in the words of my good friend: "I'd smell if he was seeing another woman" - The wife appears to lack physical and emotional sense of smell it seems.

She could be so confident that having had the conversation, made minor changes in their life and reinstated a sporadic sexlife everything is fine, but I can't help thinking she knows and is turning a blind eye.

Jemimah's first blog.
Hello, World!
I am a bit on the side. I feel like a beloved bit on the side, but it's nice to have somewhere to call a spade a bloody shovel, if so inclined.
Why a blog? To say the stuff that stays inside my head (until now!) Friends are great, as are therapists. I guess a blog, like a diary is a third way.
Enough of the rambling!

My lover is older than me and has health problems. This and a thirty year-plus marriage gave him the excuse for a celibate marriage after meeting me. He tried to do the decent thing and confessed and tried to leave marriage, but wasn't able to carry through. When trying to live without me he restarted conjugal relations. The Wife had been keen to give up sex, but then started to worry that he wasn't missing it. She thinks if they're having sex things are OK.

What surprised me, is that I am not threatened by, nor do I particularly care about the marital sex. Being cynical I am bound to be more interesting than his longterm partner. And I do honestly feel loved for all sorts of sloppy things I don't particularly want to discuss here. I know age, health and medication gave/give him excuses to keep such sex to minimum.

So Dear Reader - Does the lady protest too much?

I think intercourse is rather nice, but being rather clitoral I can take it or leave it. My lover is excellent at giving me pleasure and gets a lot of excitement from this. I think he enjoys my lack of inhibitions about such things as well. As marital sex has to be proper and culminate in intercourse for reasonable length of time, my 'take it or leave it' attitude is helpful I suspect when illness, age, medication play their part.

And now for the trigger for this blog. Today I had a lovely time with my lover and a very nice orgasm. I thought it would be nice to reciprocate and despite medication I gave him a very nice time. I was pleased for him, but the devil on my shoulder smirked and said 'It'll be a while before The Wife gets attention'